As soon as I held a pencil, my mom declared a rule:
First, write a thank you note. Then, play with your new gift.
Our relatives lived multiple states and hundreds of miles away. So, holidays came in a box. Birthday gifts, Christmas candy, and Easter chocolates arrived at our door wrapped in brown packaging.
I remember not knowing how to spell the word “thanks” but copying it with my hand-drawn picture while my wooden train sat waiting to chug around a new track.
Thank you. Two important words. Words that go missing too often, but not just in regards to gifting. In this space, we talk about serving others all the time, but we don’t talk about what happens when you serve with pure intentions, and people bleed you dry.
I don’t have to tell you this happens. You know because it happens to you.
Women’s ministry leaders, teachers, foster parents, committee members, pastors, friends. At some point, you give and give and feel empty, and before you know it, bitterness sneaks up and bites your heart.
With a stinging heart, you back away for a time and sometimes for good, but I wonder if your service could be salvaged with two simple words.
I am guilty of forgetting thanks. Thanks to the neighbor who leaves a snowsuit one day and flip flops the next. Thanks to the friend who calls to check-in even if I don’t call back. Thanks to the colleague who makes everything funny.
Thanks, and thanks to you too. I wish I could hug you and tell you I appreciate your selflessness and the fact that you think about serving others, but you will have to settle for this foot-five.
It's the foot version of the high-five. My girls foot-five each other when one deems the other is doing something well, and I happen to think you love others well.
Thank you and here's my foot-five to you.
Think of a time when you served others and found yourself tapped out. Would your feelings have changed if your actions were acknowledged or appreciated more?: :
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