My boyfriend’s mother said I looked like an alien.
Of course she didn’t tell me this. She said it to my boyfriend’s brother, who told his girlfriend, and then the girlfriend mentioned it to her sister, and the sister whispered it to my best friend, and you know how best friends are.
And therefore, I spent time wondering just what made me look like an alien and oh, yes, how to hurry up and change it.
Twenty years later, I still remember. It’s funny how a single word can transport us back in time and leave our heart smarting.
Recently, Mike Foster wrote an article for Relevant entitled, “Fat, Ghetto, Slut, and Other Words to Quit Using”.
After reading the title, I decided I’m not a big user of “fat, ghetto, or slut” and I’m not about to give up my occasional curse word, so obviously, his little post wasn’t intended for me, but I gave it a quick click for good measure.
First word on the list? Stupid. Bam!
Stupid. Oh, come on now, I like stupid. The stupid appraisal. The stupid grocery cart. The stupid drain. The stupid person I lent my library card to and then found myself with a $78.00 fee. Stupid library fees.
Stupid feels good.
Foster’s words got me thinking about my words and my words got me thinking about the sarcasm that gushes from my mouth like water from a Class IV rapid.
I wonder if maybe one of the easiest ways to show love for others is by carefully crafting what comes out of our mouths. Whether intentional or not, what we say molds those around us. We push and shape. We hold the ability to carve beautiful. So, why wouldn't we?
Let's start today. Now.
What words make your heart swell? What words do you shower on your kids, husband, and friends? What words do you long to hear?
Speaking of wordy love, my friend, Alene, just put out an ebook entitled Giving Up Normal, and guess what? It's free. In it, she challenges readers to pay attention to the causes that make hearts pound and fists clench. Click over to here place to read more.
Linking with the SDG crew.