Stay home.
Buy items you don’t need.
Forget about chores.
Refuse to discuss world events.
Encourage comparing.
Talk about all the things you don't have.
Reject failure.
Give prizes for everything.
Never talk about money.
Ignore them. Hello, you are busy.
And always wait to have hard conversations.
Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Proverbs 3:3
*A big PS: The above screamer doesn't happen to be selfish, but a fit this grand had to make the blog.
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give every hearts' desire
One that comes to mind quickly:
-Keep them from experiencing disappointment at all cost.
Gaby and Kendal,
Ugh, both of those are so good. Yes, they need to be included.
This is SO good. SO true. I thought about you this weekend -- my 5-year-old had a total melt-down b/c she had to contribute to the giving fund from her allowance. And I said to myself, "Where have I gone wrong, God. I need to be more like Amy!"
Here's one to add to the list: Never make them give their own money.
Never, ever tell them what Jesus did for them.
Give in to every fool thing they beg for!
And just tonight, I took the boys out for hamburgers and ice cream as a treat, and Rowan takes one single bite of his hamburger and says, "I want another one after this. Can I have another one?" And my response was, "Can you please enjoy the one you have before galloping on to what you want next?" And then he had a break-down because I would only let him get a cup of ice cream (it came free with the kids meal) instead of a full size milk shake.
What a nerve. I would have never had a breakdown for my parents not letting me get a milkshake, AS I was sitting in a restaurant with a full meal in front of me. Going out to dinner when I was a kid was a rarity -- a very big treat.
Maybe that's the problem? I take my kids out too much? They've come to expect it? To take it for granted?
Grrrr.
Let them eat macaroni and chicken nuggets every night for dinner, after you cooked a nice healthy meal!! :)
This was good!
Is that your cutie?
Great post Amy. I would add....teach them that life is fair and do everything you can to make things fair. Someone told me this a long time ago and over time it makes more and more sense.
Andie
Never correct
"Fix" every wound
Let them think money grows on trees
Let them believe their talents are things they work hard at not gifts from God.
Praise the things they do not who they are.
With Joy, Carey
Never push them to do something bigger.
I like how you listed "give prizes for everything." Can't stand that :)
Deodate's comment above reminded me of a friend who had twin girls. She used to cut cake pieces in different sizes intentionally and told her girls, "You might as well learn right now, life isn't fair." I smiled thinking about her today. Both girls turned into lovely young ladies, by the way.
Let the schools teach them values...
I love that picture. And, this one might not be popular, but I don't think every kid should get a trophy for everything. There's nothing wrong with celebrating suceess. I can assure you that the kids who can't be graceful losers are going to have a rough adjustment in the real world.
Sometimes my own selfishness gets the best of me.
Let your kids disrespect each other -- after all, they're only kids. They'll learn someday when they have to.
Great post, by the way, Amy!
you hit the nail on the head girl! I am convicted myself about a few of these. Even though I've raised three and still working on two...I've got LOTS to still learn. Somethings I would do differently for sure but thankful that I see some things that are not to late to do differently..love ya:)
xo
that's the cutest little screamer ever :)
another one.....make sure they have every little thing that "all the other kids at school" have. don't want them to be left out!
Oh, this is so good, Amy. I'm going through the list and my eyes get bigger and I"m asking myself deep about each one. Honestly? It scares me a little.
all-inclusive vacations :)
i love you amy. thanks so much for being a guest at my place. bless you.
Thanks for your encouragement .. so love inspiration :)
Let them watch whatever they want on TV - there's really no need to REALLY protect their hearts, right?
Great stuff to think about, Amy! Thank you!
Natalie at Mommy on Fire
http://www.mommyonfire.com
great post!
Great way to approach it! Loved it!
This is good! Reminds me of why I don't give into their every whim even when it makes me the bad guy!
This one made me smile today. Yes, coddling children may make parenting easier for a short time, but when they grow up--watch out!
Achingly true.
*Thank you, Amy*
All's grace,
Ann
Keep, don't give anything away, hoard.
Really good post.
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